Don't start something that isn't right from the start

Because we're sadomasochists at heart, we tend to dive into the things that are wrong from the very beginning. We pray and hope that one day, it will turn out to be the right thing for us. We think that the reason why people are against it, is because they're just jealous or they don't know any better.

We fall for the taken. We fall for our girl friend's ex, or worse, the best friend of our ex. We fall for the bad guy. We fall for someone whom our family dislikes. We fall for the person our family doesn't trust. We fall for someone who is so wrong for us. Some things are not even worth fighting for, when you know you're potentially ruining something that shouldn't be touched in the first place.

We end up fighting our hearts out for so long, thinking that in the end, our hard work and efforts will pay off.

Wrong.

What is wrong from the beginning, is wrong for a purpose. It's God's way of telling us: stop, and don't even think about it. Would you honestly want to experience a heart break, which is of your own doing?

Most times, we make excuses. We tell ourselves, "matitigilan ko din to"; it becomes an addiction, and grows into something unstoppable, until we just keep telling ourselves that one way or another, something's gonna happen to make it stop, or rather, it could be meant to be, since you're still dancing together.

Wrong again.

I've been there; liking or dating the person whom I'm not supposed to be with; telling myself that I'm only human, and I'm allowed a maximum number of mistakes, or that I only live once, or that hey, I'm so tired of being good, so might as well be bad just this once; I've been there -- thinking that this will only be a one-time thing, chucking my conscience elsewhere, because I think to myself, this will not go on.

But would you really want to dig that grave for yourself? To be the one who could potentially ruin relationships - friendships, romantic relationships, and worse, marriages? Could you carry it around in your conscience? Maybe for a time yes, but in the long run, things will eventually blow up in your face. Trust me, the girl who married the wrong person, because I never listened to the people who care about me.

Masarap ang bawal, ika nga nila. But don't ever make a permanent decision for a temporary emotion. Our hormones and feelings are always fleeting and unreliable, and all of our decisions have corresponding repercussions in the future.

So don't start something, that isn't even right from the start; don't play with fire; don't think that you're strong enough to handle something, which you know, you won't be able to resist soon; don't fight what your gut is telling you when it says "stop, think, and turn around".